My life has provided some specific experiences through which I have felt the reality that marriage is not just an ephemeral idea or just a word. It is a living, breathing house for those joined together and the children they bring into it. It is a sort of being. It is more than just those who began it, even if there are never children brought into it. The time and energy put into the relationship between the two who began it actually build rooms and beautify the house that the marriage is or can be. This is the exact thing that Proverbs 14:1 is referring to when it says, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."
It is daunting to realize the problems in marriage. Even more difficult to realize that the only person whose problems we can ever improve are our own. I know, though, that as we improve ourselves, our spouse will improve, too. That's a result of the truth in the Mandelbrot Set and the reality of our spirits being tied together. There are exceptions, of course. Those are very sad, especially when one partner wants to make it work and the other will not consider it. In general, though, as we focus on fixing what we actually can (ourselves), our partner will improve basically all on their own. How awesome is that?
Marriage. Defined by God. And created as an awesome vehicle for self improvement! We realize how far we have to go when we unite with another person, don't we? I know I sure did.
What do you think of marriage?
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