Tuesday, July 5, 2016

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observations: guys when they multiply

I've been working at my local Whataburger for a while now.  A lot more frequently during June 2016.  These public work times have provided lots of observation time.  One thing I've observed a few times came to a bit of a head on June 30th.

Have you ever noticed how guys tend to behave in more aggressive ways and use more foul language when their numbers increase?  Perhaps especially when they are young guys... but I have definitely had quite a few opportunities to observe this recently.

For a lady who feels the impact of curse words, even when not directed or spoken to me, this is exceedingly disturbing.  Nonetheless, even though it might surprise those who have known me since my youth, I do not prefer confrontation.  So, I have on at least two recent occasions experienced the truth mentioned in the Declaration of Independence which reads:

...all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security.

I believe the truth mentioned here is that folks would rather just keep on keepin' on, rather than interrupt their experience of life by dealing with rough YUCK stuff going on around them.

The rough stuff I've been around and wanted to ignore has been loud cursing and raunchy conversation in groups of guys (usually more than three guys).  On the 30th, there were two guys sitting in the booth just ahead of mine.  I could hear them, but i t was easy to tune them out.  Nary a curse word or raunchy subject did I hear.

When two more guys joined them, all four males began cursing periodically.  Mind, I was not TRYing to hear them or the curse words.  And when four males are cursing, that produces many curse words.  I both heard and felt them pop out at me from everything else they said.

Additionally, their conversation about females in their life currently or experience was disturbingly disrespectful and vulgar.  They four had foul mouths and minds based on their words.  And though I would have rather sat and ignored them, I did experience a point at which their abuses felt like efforts to reduce me under absolute despotism.  If I could have ignored them, I would have.  I absolutely felt the need to throw off the energetic YUCK I felt as a result of the words they spoke.

So, I said something to them about it.

As it happened on the 30th, at least one among them is probably a really nice guy who is often mindful of others.  He tried to excuse his behavior explaining that he was young.  I cut him off and told him that was no excuse and he was practicing now for the rest of his life.  He actually did change his behavior, for which I was very grateful as I was able to return to the writing on which I was working diligently to focus.

Basically, it is my observation that guys, as their number multiplies, become more crude, rude, and even perverse.  Have you had opportunity to observe such a thing?
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